1. Don’t live beyond your means
Now don’t get me wrong, we are all for splurging but living everyday above your means is definitely not the same. I read somewhere that splurging everyday isn’t splurging anymore… it’s a lifestyle. That being said, I encourage you to find ways to compromise and to make your splurging count.
2. You don’t owe anyone anything
Including apologies. You don’t have to feel bad about not having money or time or desire to do anything. You can say no and that’s okay. You don’t have to explain your priorities either. You can do it unapologetically at that.
3. Your own company is all you need
Anyone else is a plus. It is so important to love yourself and to be okay with spending time alone. Seriously the most important relationship you will ever have is with yourself.
4. Bills suck.
When you fall behind on bills it takes FOREVER to get your life together again. Just remember it happens to everyone… Don’t overact or beat yourself up about it. Pro tip: If you overdraw your account, call the bank and ask them to reserve the fees. You can usually get all or some of the money back.
5. Comparison will get you nowhere
Seeing everyone living their best life on the gram is fun, but not always healthy. I find that when I am feeling most vulnerable, self aware and anxious, it is usually linked to me making unfair comparisons. Its important to note that comparisons are useless and unhealthy. They are also almost always based on inaccuracies. Everyone is going through something. Just because you don’t see it, they still exist.
6. Experiences over everything
I live for experiences. Even things that I don’t think I would be into. Learning a new trade, going on a random day trip, exploring Groupon for rando adventures, etc. Do as much as you can!
Not to be confused with vacationing. Travelling can be so enriching, but it doesn’t have to break the bank. Emerge yourself in the culture of a new place. Stay with friends and family when you can, and think of alternate modes of transportation. For example, take the bus or train when airfare is high. Also, booking well in advance helps cut costs.
8. You define your own worth
Not your family, your partner, your friends, your bank account, your job, your followers… None of those things. It is nice to have others around you though, to remind you when you forget.
9. Put yo’ phone down
I know, I know but just hear me out. I know for most of us, our phones are our alarm clocks, our cameras, and how we interact with the rest of the world. Its recommended that you limit electronics before bed and when you are starting your day so put your phone in airplane mode just before bed. (Don’t worry, your alarm will still work.) Don’t turn it back on until you are on your way out the door.
10. Journaling helps
It’s kinda fun to keep track of your life. It doesn’t need to be super formal, even bullet points will do but reading over your successes, downfalls, goals, hopes, and dream. It makes me feel super relaxed and helps when anxiety is taking over.
A lot of our problems seem so huge until you deal with something bigger. I have to keep reminding myself to put things in perspective when I feel stressed and overwhelmed. Perspective is key.
12. Break the rules
Moral of the story, growing up is tough. You are constantly learning about yourself and how to make it. You have good days and terrible ones and that is okay. It’s okay to break the rules every now and then to make up for the growing pains. Ice cream for breakfast!